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holy cow this newsletter is always good but this week feels like you wrote it for me. my brother (seven years older) has Down Syndrome and i am just now working out in therapy how so much anxiety comes from my lifelong fear of people being mean to this great person simply because he exists. your panic in the restaurant is how i feel....all the time when i’m with him. i just want to control the situation and make sure no one is anything but kind and treats him like any other person. thank you for this ❤️ also so sick of people with Down Syndrome being used as plot devices rather than people. it happened in Ozark too.

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not to like, give you an assignment, but I'm going to need the book of essays/audiobook narrated by you ASAP

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When I tell you I would read an entire book of these. You do a great job of putting words to the constant spiral/ realization loop of being alive at a certain age in a specific society.

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the vulnerability in this has allowed america to fall in love with you just like rupaul said they would.

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This is astonishing, Pat. Genuinely one of the best things I've ever read. The way you subtly pivot between feelings is so extraordinary. This will stay for me for a long time and I will be recommending your newsletter to everyone I know.

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This made me feel every emotion yes I’m crying. But this newsletter could be a chapter in a novel that I would actually like reading. You are so incredibly perceptive, and you articulate a certain melancholy that only an empath can know. Every newsletter has been a 10 I LOVE YOUR WORK

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My little sister has severe autism (she's stylish and perfect and opinionated and we call her the Megan Markle of Autism) and I could not possibly relate to this more. !!!

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The jigsaw of it all was so on point. I laughed and cried Pat!! Never stop news”letter”ing my inbox craves it all.

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❤️❤️ your sister is so lucky to have you!! loved this. the thought of high school can also send me spiraling in an uncomfortable way sometimes. strange how we don't outgrow that.

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Beautiful and touching <3

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Thank you for sharing this, Pat. <3

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Wawa drag is soooo funny lmao

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👏👏👏🤣

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Pat, thank you for putting into words just what I find myself feeling sometimes. This is a beautiful piece. All the love in this whole damn world to you and your sister!

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<3

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crying! a lot!

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